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Love is in the air… I think.

tumblr_m3wy1847WV1rnecmw-300x202 …Excuse my French, but…

They say, “watch what you wish for, you just might get it.” Welp, folks, I got it. I’m in a relationship {but, hold the applause}…

This is not what I thought it would be.

After being with someone off and on for two years, it was time to nip it in the butt and really figure out what we wanted to do. I had been the type of girl who would always “break up” after arguments, when I was fed up with a situation I would denounce my love for him, when my list of needs were not met, I said “THIS IS OVER, I’M DONE!”… you get the point, right? I had no patience, pretty much.

I had been single for several years. In my mind, I was an independent, strong woman. If this guy wasn’t going to give me what I want, then forget him! Time is of the essence, I can’t wait around for him to figure out what he wants to do. I’m not going to sit here when there are other fish in the sea.

But, is that what a relationship is all about… One-sided? Should I whine and kick my feet when I don’t get my way?

These questions came to mind when I was re-introduced to the idea of being in a relationship with him. He turned 40 years old and I thought to myself, we’re both getting older {Well, I’m getting younger actually :)}. Is this something we’re willing to fight for here on out? We sat down, and discussed it, we knew we loved each other, and it was decided, we’d give it another try.

But, DANG, being in a relationship is HARD!

Since we decided this three months ago, I’m not going to lie, it has been tough. I still don’t get my way. I have had to really keep my patience in check. And, I’ve had to accept and love him for who he is — and also ignore the things that annoy me (like when he forgets to flush the toilet!).

But, all and all, the foundation of our relationship — and most importantly, our friendship — is sincere. He means well, I mean well, and we’re going to see where this goes. Wish me luck folks! But, in the meantime, as Valentine’s Day draws near, tell me about your relationship struggles. I know I’m not the only one who thought that being in a relationship would be easy.

~Stay blessed.

H. Amber

 

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